In the last post, I answered some questions that we have been asked about adoption. I couldn’t include all of those questions in the last post, so I figured I’d have another post answering a couple more questions.
How much money are you hoping to raise? Well, there is no way to know exactly how much this adoption will cost. We are planning to go with our previous agency, but if another situation comes up, we may use a different agency, which could significantly change the cost of the agency/legal fees and the birth mother expenses. We have a goal of about 25-30,000 for the money we are going to need.
Our own money, including taxes and savings, will account for a little more than a third of that amount. We are hoping to raise another third with our upcoming fundraiser. If our adoption is on the lower end of cost, that will pay for the vast majority of it. If our adoption is more expensive, we are still hoping for some grants to come through–so far we have applied for a lot but haven’t received any. We are only planning to do one big fundraiser, but if push comes to shove and we are unable to raise enough, we may do another one later on. Our fundraiser will go “live” sometime this week. It was supposed to be this past weekend but unfortunately, as Leah says, our car took a trip to auto heaven.
Second, we were asked back when we were raising money to adopt Canaan why we were “adopting a baby that we obviously didn’t have the money to care for?” Needless to say that question caught us off guard. I hope that none of you have asked this question, but if you have, consider how many people you know that have $30,000 in liquid funds available to pay for any given thing. Even people with quite a bit of money are unable to spend that much all at once. We have modest incomes, but we have more than enough to care for two children, we just need help getting through the raising money part of it.
Unfortunately adoption isn’t something you can typically make payments on.
This adoption road is a hard one, but we know it’s the road we are supposed to be on. Adoption is forcing us to do something that we hate to do: ask for help. It’s a beautiful thing to allow people to be a part of your story, but it’s also really hard to have to ask for help.
Lastly, Leah recently had an experience where they were talking about money and investments and bottom lines, and the conclusion was that when people you love and who are a part of your story are what you are investing in, when they’re your bottom line, then all the risk is worth it. For us, that investment that we are asking you to be a part of is our beautiful children’s faces, their lives with us and our family. We hope that you think the payoff is worth the risk, as much as we do.